Killing two birds with one stone

That's a pretty apt title for dropping our one-and-only child off at college for her freshman year. In one fell swoop, we dealt for the first time with a child leaving home AND the shock of becoming empty nesters. No easing in to it by returning home to a second child. Just rip off that Band-Aid right now.

This blog is dedicated to not only new empty nesters but especially those with one-and-onlys. We're in a special kind of shock. And yes, even though it's just one person we've lost from our household, the house is eerily quiet! I suddenly realize the amount of energy that one chattering voice at the dinner table brought to our home. 

So now we begin the adventure of college through our daughter's eyes while adjusting to home with just the two of us. Who will talk first at the dinner table?


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